Staying Safe While Topping or Bottoming This is the second installment in a series designed to educate today's queer youth on healthy gay sex. By Tyler Curry November 23 In any sexual encounter, gay, straight or otherwise, one person typically assumes the dominant role while the other takes on a submissive role. But while tops and bottoms are equal, their differing roles do come with different health issues and responsibilities that every gay and bisexual man should be well informed about, regardless of sexual position.
However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can get douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs. Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering.