Tweet Joe Newton You recently gave this advice to a gay man involved with a married bisexual man: Staying away from people who are in committed relationships is sound advice. But condemning all bisexuals as poor relationship material is prejudiced, biphobic, and hurtful. Most condemnations of bisexuals are made on the basis of their presumed inability to be monogamous, a generalization that is in many cases false. But you yourself admit that most gay men are equally unable to be monogamous. Therefore, the only possible explanation for your anti-bisexual response is pure, irrational bias.
Dane Nelson, a year-old survival instructor, is something of a rarity. Not because he's a bisexual man, but because he's out about his sexuality. Recent research from Pew showed that only about a quarter of bisexual people are open about their sexuality, as opposed to 77 percent of gay men and 71 percent of lesbians. It took years for Nelson to get to a place where he could be open with friends, family, and colleagues. He remembers a particularly painful instance from high school that kept him closeted. A boy Nelson vaguely knew heard that Nelson was bi and started asking questions about it. His friends eventually heard a rumor that I was bi and he stopped talking to me.